and found this. it's directed at women-to-men, but it reverberates with me strongly in the sense that I'd love to be on the receiving end. the internets are weird. I clicked on the daily how-to from wikihow (a fun way to pass time) and started clicking the related links at the bottom of each page...
quote:
Offer sex frequently. To most men, this is the most crucial area of their marriage and defines the tone of their relationship with their wife. If you doubt this or are not sure if this applies to your man, try reading the next 3 paragraphs to him and watch is head nod, his eyes light up and his entire face smile. (EDIT: I actually nodded to myself while reading this - ha!)
Most men have deep emotional (and physical) desires and needs associated with sex and your willingness to approach him often is crucial to his happiness and your marital success. Many men would like to have sex every day; for some men, once a week is enough. Most normal, healthy men are pleased with 3 to 5 times a week. (this of course varies with every man, ask yours what he likes!)
Consider trying especially interesting lovemaking at least once a week, including taking the time to push him for a second (or third) round. Normal, healthy men do require a “recovery time” before they can achieve erection and climax again, but with the right kind of stimulation, this can usually be done.
Without the frequent intimate acceptance and love that comes from your lovemaking, a man can and will become dissatisfied, grumpy, and ultimately suffer from feelings of rejection and even anger. On the other hand, if you offer sex to your man frequently and he will be content, kind, gentle and eager to please you in any way possible.
(http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Wife)
this is one of those things in which I am wired differently than a "typical" girl (all the above stuff about the man can be applied to me). or maybe I'm just more able to talk about it? I worried when I was younger about being such a sexual creature, about bisexuality, and about why I'm so different from other women. I don't really worry about it as much as I'm curious as to the how's and why's these days. So much of being a queer can be ascribed to genes - many people have been queer from day one, always been sexually attracted to the same gender...and I pretty much accept that I like both girls and boys for that reason. just always have, no real societal influence as to my gut reaction of what is attractive. But there's a lot more to it. Being a dude who likes dudes has nothing to do with liking gardening or madonna or lisping. Being a chick who likes chicks has nothing to do with flannel and butch haircuts and militant man-hating. So I wonder about society's influence...physical reaction really doesn't matter when it comes to how I communicate, how I like to be treated, the fact that I say what's on my mind and don't believe in head games. liking cars and sex and sports and the (friendly) company of guys over gals might influence the *type* of guy or girl I end up with in the end, but not whether it will *be* a guy or girl.
musing on the effects of women's lib and the media and the social structure of american society on not only my sexual and gender identity but also my internal workings is an interesting way to pass the time while unemployed. :)
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